I have come to learn about another side of my husband through Facebook. His friends are many of his former colleagues and assistant coaches, former students and athletes since he has been a teacher and coach for decades. He also connected with friends and acquaintance from his native Greece before he emigrated over 20 years back. Since those communications are in Greek, I can only imagine what they say but it reminds me of the person he was before we met. He uses games like Farmville and Cityville to interact with a broad variety of people. Getting updates that my city born husband is “harvesting his crops” or “has found a pig on his farm” makes me smile.
When our then thirteen year old son asked to join Facebook, we said, “No. All your friends live around us. You can call them up or ride your bike to visit them.” But he persisted. When we were in Greece visiting my husband’s family, he asked again if he could join. He appealed to his father’s desire for him to share a connection with his homeland. “Dad, If you let me join I can keep in touch with my friends here and your family. Given the time change and distance, phone calls and visits are hard.” Hmmm . . not a bad argument. After setting parameters (we were friends, no “unfriending” us, no inappropriate content and a lecture on dangerous folks lurking on the Internet), we relented. He had his own request. “Please, don’t post messages on my wall.” We agreed and chuckled. I was reminded of when I was his age. He immediately set up his account and invited friends from both Greece and Seattle.
Now an additional enjoyment of Facebook is the peak it gives me into different sides of my firstborn. His “likes” evidence our shared interests and those that are uniquely his. His status updates on everything from getting braces to painting a wagon to going to a Seahawks game demonstrate his wide ranging thoughts. He is visibly growing up as you can see from this image I captured of him (despite his best efforts to hide). And I have very mixed feelings about that. Facebook allows me to watch a portion of his life without intruding. He posted two quotes that had me laughing out loud because they captured his essence.